...did someone say Party?

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t’s a joy to be able to throw a fabulous party for our children. It’s quite natural that we desire the best for them. What we don’t need to do is place pressure on ourselves to throw parties that we can ill-afford.

I enjoyed throwing theme parties for my children over the years. We’ve had Mother Goose, Treasure hunt, Safari, Dress up Tea Party, Luau Pool Party, Lounging with friends, Teddy Bear picnic and many more… We become so caught up in the party planning, that we can lose sight of why we’re throwing the party in the first place. We have parties to celebrate milestones in our children’s lives and create memories... We bring family and friends together to help us celebrate and we do special things to make our children feel special because we love them. In the end, no matter how much we spend or how many guests we invite our children should be happy.

 Happiness should not depend on the size check we write for the party.  We must teach our children gratitude and understanding.  Another good lesson to teach is that the purpose of throwing a party is to bring friends together, not to receive presents. I’ve attend parties where in lieu of presents, we were asked to donate toys and books to charity. That is such a beautiful lesson for children. They learn at an early age the importance of giving to those less fortunate.

We need to show them that having friends and family come to celebrate their birthday shows how much they are loved and appreciated.  As parents, we may get a little carried away. We may become competitive and throw elaborate parties to reflect ourselves and not our children. Our emphasis should be placed on the fun our child will have and not on outspending a friend who threw a very elaborate party.

A few months ago I planned a simple party for my 5year old and he had the time of his life! I removed my ego from planning the event and spent under $400.00. The theme was “Happy Birthday-Back to Basics”. Balloons, hotdogs, popcorn, piñata, pin the tail on the donkey, etc. I decided to give him all the things and dishes he enjoy, even the candy! Simon and his guests tie dyed shirts for the craft. He even performed Michael Jackson’s ‘Smooth Criminal’ for his guests. A good time was had by all and more importantly, my son, Simon. Love and happiness is not determined by price but effort!